Not specific personal experiences. Please, for the love of all that’s holy. 
What I want to talk about is sex in writing. Everyone talks about how the market is heating up, no matter what level you currently write at. They also say there’s no market for the sweeter romance anymore.
Perhaps. But maybe the sweeter stuff is just called “Women’s Fiction” now instead of romance.
I’m in a fairly nice place with my writing. I write anything from sensual to flat-out filthy, so even if the market tones down some, I’m good…and if it continues to heat up, I’m also fine.
But what does this mean for the genre as a whole? What does this do to writers who aren’t comfortable writing the hawtness? 
No, really. I don’t want to have the discussion of “get with the program or start writing inspy/women’s fiction, sweet romance people!”
I mean, how many times have people looked at my work or the lines that I write for and said, “Oh, that’s just porn with an HEA. It’s not even really romance. In fact, it’s not even really erotic romance. Brava is erotic romance, Aphrodisia is sex with a little chatting between orgasms and then an HEA slapped on the end.”
Yeah, I’ve heard it. Yeah, it’s rude. Yeah, I was offended. But people are entitled to their opinions, so I didn’t bother with more than a cursory, “I disagree…I do write romance, and I would never write porn, thank-you-very-much.” The actual internal diatribe will never see the light of day. 
However. I imagine people at the other end of the spectrum, who write sweet romance, and are now being told it’s not romance any more, it’s women’s fiction, are just as unhappy. People at each end are getting kicked out of the genre. What does that say about the future of the genre? Is it big enough to include the whole spectrum? Do we think it will continue to heat up, or will we see a backlash into the sweeter stuff?